I can not seem to have a schedule that works without a husband, or X-husband wanting a change. X#1 sent an email about spring break. He forgot about the holiday and break and wants Alyssa to come be with him over Easter and not the week he usually has with her. He phrases the email, "I need you to be flexible". As if this does not happen, just as he wants, it will be my fault. Darn those old tapes in my head. "It is your fault Beth, it is your responsiblity to make it work out for everyone. You are the bad, selfish one of you do not comply." BUT I AM NOT! I AM NOT! I know this and I am believing it more and more but sometimes the "this is not how it is supposed to be" out weighs the "this is reality, deal with it best you can" and it, I don't want to say hurts but it does not feel OK. But it will. It will and the girls and I will continue to be better than OK.
X2B has been very quiet lately. Ever since the "Drain the well dry" email I have not heard anything from him. Distance, this is good, distance will help the healing. And I am healing. We all are. Life is good!
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Okay, I'm mad. Why is it that YOU are the one who is expected to be "flexible" and make sudden changes all of the time? Why don't THEY ever have to exhibit the flexibility you feel forced to endure? X#1 and X2B are manipulators. UGH!
I know you didn't ask for my advice, but here it is, anyway. Ask Alyssa what she wants to do. She might not want to go when X#1 wants her there. She is old enough to make that decision and if this whole thing is about Alyssa, then she should have some say-so.
The "man" can just get over it.
I have to write him and email. We made arrangements for the entire weekend knowing that she would be gone for the rest of the week as she spends Spring Break with him. OUr plans include other people who have rearranged their time to work around her being gone. So it is his choice now, take the time he is allotted in the court order of give it up. NOT MY YOB! :)
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